Dream girl, don't get to conclusions. Dream girl is not from my dreams, she's from my future. She was born from the symbol of what a perfect girl should be? Everyone have their view on how a perfect girl should be and so do I. There might be ample qualities of girls which make men like me irresistible. But, My list is short and sensible.
Sense of Humor:
Any given chance the best quality I would look for. You might not be surprised, but definitely you would be thinking whether it deserve to be first in the list. I say Yes. No matter what happens, where you are, if someone can keep you happy, can make you laugh, I dunno about others that's what i call Happy life. I need someone who can take things cool and treat them with humor. A good sense of humor also helps us avoid fights as most of the issues are treated in a lighter way.
"Physical beauty may fade away, but my gal must know how to keep me smiling forever"
In a life long commitment, this one undeniably tops the list.
Happy Friendly:
Its not only me and her who take this journey called life. There are people who were part of my life and who will be there in future too. I would love a happy friendly girl who appears happy and with a smile on her face. A jolly, playful and friendly person who can easily attract and mix well with my parents, friends in that matter, anyone who come along my life. A happy go lucky kind off.
"The house doesn't rest upon ground, but upon a woman"
So I need someone who can take care of parents and friends and make them part of my family.
Patience:
Its extremely rare for a man to find a girl who has patience. I am serious. when a woman is impatient, in many cases its the final nail in the coffin. I never feel proud to say i am short tempered, but that's the way i am. If someone could have the patience to withhold, I would the first to calm down.
"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"
Thoda patience thats it.
Appearance:
A girl who knows how to dress like a true lady. You are a girl and you have the power to be irresistible, dress feminine and still you will attract man. The color of your dress and accessories may also do wonders on your looks. A girl who can dress like a true lady, carry herself well and not insecure with her body.
My personal fav: Half Saree.
That's my list. I know its short but definitely not easy.
"My search for perfect gal ends when I find the happiness I once felt when I was with my mother"
My idea of a Perfect Gal!!
Does anyone know about gals?
Gals have always been a question to crack for guys. Let me give you some facts about gals which I think I have cracked. Finally, every fact on my list might be wrong for few so, its just for fun.
- If you have done something wrong and she ignores you, give her sometime to cool down before touching her heart with an apology.
- When someone she likes stares and smiles deep into her eyes, she will melt.
- Girls like to hear compliments, but only from people whom they like. If you are not on the list you will get to know.
- A smile means a lot for girls. Nice smile, you are half way through.
- A simple "Hi" can brighten a girl's day and a "Bye" can ruin it.
- In a picture, a girl would first check who is standing next to her love before actually looking at herself.
- If you need tips on how to flirt with a girl, contact her best friend.
- When a girl say's she's sad, but she isn't crying, it means she's crying in her heart.
- Being too possessive can or I say will turn a girl off.
- Don't ever try to guess a girl's feeling. Just ask her.
- If a girl says she can't come out with you because she is busy, Leave her.
- Girls love long drives, speed and adventures. So you gotta love them too.
- If you like a girl, try making her friend. Love at first sight never work with them.
- Gals love to spend time with crazy guys but marry only responsible ones.
- Proposal, is a great reassurance to a girl that she is beautiful.
- A girl can't find anything to hate about the guy she loves, which is why its hard for her to get over him.
- If a gal loves a guy, he will always be in her mind, even though she is with other guys.
- If more difficult to say "I don't like you" to a girl who likes you than to say I Love you to a gal. So break it to her gently.
- When the guy she likes call her for the first time, she may act uninterested but that doesn't mean she is not in love with him.
- Girls hate it when a guy pays attention to them only to get close to her prettier friend.
- Girls care about how the guy looks, some care about brains, but all girls want a guy who cares and loves them.
I know now you feel that gals are easy to crack, but the problem is no gal thinks the same as other. So its waste of time to crack gals rather, love them.
P.S Dedicated to my friend Raju.
My Friend!!!
What makes friendship the purest of all relationships? It involves an exercise of choice not compulsion. Did you ever hear the saying “Judge a person with the kind of friends he have”? It’s because you chose your friends. My father always used to say that when you die, if you've got five real friends, then you've had a great life.
I would have never realized the value of friendship, if I wouldn’t have a best friend. The only way to have a best friend is to be one. If you have a friend, who truly understands you and accepts you despite your shortcomings, then you are the luckiest person in the world.
I am no one to derive an equation on friendship, everyone has a friend. I would like to share what I feel about a best friend. I always felt friends are my strength and I am undefined without them. I never bothered how important I am to them, but they are always part of my life. The most I can do to my friends is simply being their friend.
How many best friends do I have? That’s the question I have been pondering on at some point of time.
When one of my friend said “Your personality is built such that most of your good friends and I mean very good friends are scared to death when they want to express anything they feel is important to share”. I know there are friends who can talk to me anytime, anywhere regarding anything. But am I not the same with all? Yes, I am the same person with all my friends; the difference is how they see me.
In friendship, I believe a man should hold his friend unjudged, accepted, trusted, and granted to the end. If I can’t even express my feeling to a friend does that really sound friendship? Then what makes a friend different from other relations. Whoever says friendship is easy has obviously never had a true friend.
A friend is one with whom you can share everything, absolutely everything. A friend is one who knows us, but loves us anyway. A friend never leaves you when you are wrong. It doesn’t mean you tolerate your friend even if he is wrong. You tell him that he is wrong, but in the end, it is clear you are on his side. When I am happy, I can share it with any person around me but when I am sad, I always want my friend beside me. No matter what I do, what I say, a friend stays with me till the end. A Friend should be taken granted.How can there be any conditions for friendship? Friendship is divine. However rare true love may be, it is less so than true friendship.
Am I worth only that?
A Bitter Reality
As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in Software Engineering and joined a company based in USA, the land of braves and opportunity. When I arrived in the USA, it was as if a dream had come true. Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I would be staying in this country for about Five years in which time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India.
My father was a government employee and after his retirement, the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat.
I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald's and pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange rate getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down.
Finally I decided to get married. Told my parents that I have only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight. Was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for all my friends back home. If I miss anyone then there will be talks. After reaching home I spent home one week going through all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting shorter I was forced to select one candidate.
My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India increased to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. Our savings started diminishing. After two more years we started to have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us by the almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.
Every year I decide to go to India¦ but part work, part monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I couldn't get any holidays and thus could not go to India ... The next message I got was my parents had passed away. I was depressed. My parents had passed away without spending time with their grand children.
After couple more years passed away, much to my children's dislike and my wife's joy we returned to India to settle down. I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my savings were short and the property prices had gone up during all these years. I had to return to the USA..
My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to stay in India... My 2 children and I returned to US after promising my wife I would be back for good after two years. Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an American and my son was happy living in USA... I decided that had enough and Wind-up everything and returned to India... I had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bedroom flat in a well-developed locality.
Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife has also left me and gone to the holy abode.
Sometimes I wondered was it worth all this?
My father, even after staying in India, Had a house to his name and I too have
the same nothing more.
I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.
Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing. This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these children are losing their values and culture because of it. I get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright. Well at least they remember me.
But the question still remains 'was all this worth it?'
I am still searching for an answer.................!!!
START THINKING
IS IT JUST FOR ONE EXTRA BEDROOM???
LIFE IS BEYOND THIS….. DON'T JUST LEAVE YOUR LIFE
START LIVING IT
LIVE IT AS YOU WANT IT TO BE.
Love or Attraction?
Is it love or just an infatuation?
I strongly believe in love, after all there is nothing without love. However there is slight difference between love and infatuation. Opposite poles attract that’s what science taught us. It’s the same with a gal and a boy. They tend to attract each other and if you call it love? you hate to be wrong about this kind of thing. According to present generation, Age was never a qualification for love but I say big no. Anyone who think they are in love should be matured enough to judge whether its love or a mere attraction.
I don’t want to say I am an expert in differentiating love from attraction but as I always believe the situations you face would definitely teach you a lesson. As I mentioned in my previous post, I sincerely believe in love marriages over arranged and I am a strong supporter of the statement love marriages never fail. People, who believe in love, never part away. Society believes love marriages are mere failures. In love marriages which fail, they are not in love; they were just attracted.
Let me put my views on love and attraction and strictly it’s my opinion I might be wrong. Everyone has their own definition for love so do I. “Love is unconditional”.
If you really love someone you would not care if he is wrong or right, rich or poor, intelligent or stupid, tall or short. Only thing that matters is how much you love? If you judge people, then you have no time to love them.
People tend to mistake love for attraction. Attraction is initial interest in two people which draw them together and love holds them forever. Love grows with distance and time, while attraction fades. Someone likes you for what you are that’s love. Someone wants you the way they like that attraction. If you are in a fight, love cries, attraction blames. If you have made a mistake, love still holds your hand and attraction leaves you away. Attraction believes in eyes and love believes in heart. Attraction leads to possessiveness, love leads to understanding. Finally, when you are in love you can’t fall asleep because reality is better than dreams.
Love is giving freedom, confidence, faith and secure feeling. If you want to know whether you truly love someone? Don’t think about how happy you would be with her but think how worst you would be without her. I always believed in one line “If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it’s yours forever, If it doesn’t, then it was never yours”
After all this If you really think you are in love you are lucky!! Go n Party!!
Moral: We were given: Two hands to hold. To legs to walk. Two eyes to see. Two ears to listen. But why only one heart? Because the other was given to someone else. For us to find.
What I learned??
I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is love them. The rest is up to them.
I’ve learned that no matter how much you care, some people just don’t care back.
I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I’ve learned that it’s not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.
I’ve learned that you can do something in an instant that will give you pain for life.
I’ve learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I’ve learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and still have the best time.
I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.
I’ve learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken you still have someone to fix it back.
I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is, they are going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
I’ve learned that no matter what happens a smile can change things happy around you.
I’ve learned that being positive is what matters than a win or lose.
I’ve learned that love is beautiful when you fall in good hands and miserable when you are in wrong.
I've learned that true friends stick with you even when you are wrong.
I’ve learned that it takes a second to love someone but lifelong to forget the same.
Moral: I am still learning !!!